Gary Dean Lindsay ~ Class of 1973

Gary Dean Lindsay ~ Class of 1973

Departed ~ 8/3/2020










Gary Dean Lindsay passed away unexpectedly on August 3. Always the life of the party, he spent the day prior singing show tunes from the musical “Hamilton” and dancing with the home health aides caring for his mother in Chillicothe, Ohio. He was 65 years old.

Gary lived a full and adventurous life. He was born in Topeka, Kansas. He spent much of his early life in Bangkok, Thailand, where his father, Robert Lindsay, worked for Goodyear Tire & Rubber Company. After graduating from the International School of Bangkok, he moved to California to attend Pomona College and graduated in 1977 with a degree in Linguistics. He spoke German, Russian, some Malay and could stumble through some Thai. He served as the Vice Consul at the U.S. Embassy in Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia and later at the U.S. embassy in Moscow. After returning to the U.S. to earn his MBA at University of California – Berkeley, he met Mark Foehringer in 1999. He and Mark married in 2011, as soon as marriage equality became legal in New York. They were the first same sex couple to be married in Tarrytown, NY.

Gary was funny, loyal and loving. He loved music, theater and especially dance. He was integral to the management of Mark’s dance company, Mark Foehringer Dance Project|SF, where he held the position of treasurer. He wore many other hats for the company and was its number one fan and supporter. Gary was also a member of the congregation of St. Mark’s Episcopal Church in Berkeley, where he supported the church’s music program, served in the altar guild and volunteered regularly for just about anything the community needed.

He was a loyal and devoted son to his parents, Robert and Louise. He is survived by his beloved husband, Mark; his mother Louise Spencer Lindsay; his brother Ken and sister-in-law Madalin; Mark’s 4 siblings, Mary, Lois, Paul and Ruth and their spouses; and many cousins; as well as 12 nieces and nephews; 10 grand nieces and nephews and more friends than anyone can count. He was one of a kind. He is irreplaceable and will be loved, remembered and missed.

A memorial will be held in spring in both Chillicothe and Berkeley as soon as it is safe to hold gatherings.

Instead of flowers, please donate to Mark Foehringer Dance Project|SF in Gary’s name at the link below:

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